Inborn temperament and the accompanying values, vulnerabilities and personality styles
February 13, 2013 in Uncategorized
Personality as developed character based on inborn temperament and the accompanying values, vulnerabilities and personality styles or paradigms.
At present I am reading on the enneagram by Jerome Wagner.
Such interesting topics as A 3-V view of the enneagram: values,
visions, and vulnerabilities; how we stay stuck in our styles:
Schema Maintenance, Avoidance, and Compensation;
The three triads, namely the feeling triad, the thinking triad and
the instinctive triad (each containing three types of personality).
A must read for everyone who wish to understand their personal motivations and limitations, from which I extracted the following teasers:
“Vulnerabilities are the tender underbelly of our values. We are
most sensitive around those areas where we are naturally gifted
and which we most prize. Where our strengths are, there lie our
weaknesses. When our values are assailed, discounted, derided,
or in any way violated, we feel threatened and frightened. When
our strengths are challenged, impugned, distrusted, or dismissed,
we feel anxious, guilty, ashamed, and angry.
Every person shares common human needs such as those for
security, consistency, esteem, acceptance, etc. When these basic
needs are satisfied, then higher needs for self actualization and
self transcendence come to the fore and attract our energy.
If certain basic needs are not attended to and fulfilled, then we
experience vulnerability around them, accompanied by loss, hurt,
fear, and anger. Our energy gathers around these needs to
proactively get them met or to reactively shield them, making sure
we don’t get re-traumatized or neglected again. …”
“Once we establish our personality styles or paradigms to help us
apprehend and navigate around the world, we can either keep
them pliant, flexible, accommodating, and up to date; or we can
rigidly maintain them, assimilating everything into them, and suffer
what Joel Barker (1992) calls paradigm paralysis and George
Kelly (1963) labeled hardening of the categories.
There are many reasons why we might not want to change our
personality paradigms once we have formed them. They’ve
worked for us and we’ve become successful experts within their
existing range. Outside the range of our paradigm, we’re back to
average. The more adept we become within our style and the
more we become invested in it, the more we have to lose by
Another reason for resisting change is that our identity has
become intimately associated with our paradigm.”
These extractions were not meant to replace an introductory reading on the enneagram and the taking of a personal test, for which there are various possibilities on the internet (even free ones).
I wish everyone would take such a test, which results have the possibilities of working on both our personal strengths and our weak points.